Should we or not!?

[Veum]

Hey peeps a question for you all!

 

Is it OK to flirt with the opposite sex even if you are engaged, have a boyfriend/girlfriend or even married?

 

I see no harm as long it is in gest and fun! 🤔

 

Edited December 21, 2019 by Veum

[Hollywood E Rock]

12 minutes ago, Veum said:

Hey peeps a question for you all!

 

Is it OK to flirt with the opposite sex even if you are engaged, have a boyfriend/girlfriend or even married?

 

I see no harm as long it is in gest and fun! 🤔

 

@Veum

 

I use to think there was nothing wrong with it, but through experience of watching humans I now realize that flirting is a pathway to THE DARK SIDE!! I say this because we don’t stop finding people attractive, & the only thing stopping you from crossing the wrong line is your own will power. From what I have seen people don’t have much will power. It starts out as playful then next min you know you got a secret girlfriend or boyfriend plus the one your married too. I seen guys have other babies on their wives by mistake. Flirting is fun, but it can get out of hand & Ive chosen to only act in the activity when I’m single. 

[Veum]

11 minutes ago, Hollywood E Rock said:

@Veum

 

I use to think there was nothing wrong with it, but through experience of watching humans I now realize that flirting is a pathway to THE DARK SIDE!! I say this because we don’t stop finding people attractive, & the only thing stopping you from crossing the wrong line is your own will power. From what I have seen people don’t have much will power. It starts out as playful then next min you know you got a secret girlfriend or boyfriend plus the one your married too. I seen guys have other babies on their wives by mistake. Flirting is fun, but it can get out of hand & Ive chosen to only act in the activity when I’m single. 

 

@Hollywood E Rock

 

Can I be candid with you my friend? I’ve never crossed the line as long as I’ve been married (along time) and it is not my will power but my God Jesus Christ that has kept me from EVER and I will not God willing cross that line... this is just who I am... I told you I’d be very honest, like it or not!😘 

[Hollywood E Rock]

12 minutes ago, Veum said:

 

@Hollywood E Rock

 

Can I be candid with you my friend? I’ve never crossed the line as long as I’ve been married (along time) and it is not my will power but my God Jesus Christ that has kept me from EVER and I will not God willing cross that line... this is just who I am... I told you I’d be very honest, like it or not!😘 

@Veum

 

Sounds like you understand the complexities of the FORCE, & you are an agent of good. Which that’s what I figured. We haven’t met in the physical yet, but you don’t give me the impression of someone who has crossed the line to the Dark Side. My friend there are not many like you. That doesn’t mean most people are bad, I think people want to do right it’s just challenging under all the circumstances of temptation. Plus I don’t think people realize how easy it is to create an emotional attachment to another human. I’ve seen people grow real feelings for people they flirt with and situations like that can lead to the Dark Side!

[Veum]

4 minutes ago, Hollywood E Rock said:

@Veum

 

Sounds like you understand the complexities of the FORCE, & you are an agent of good. Which that’s what I figured. We haven’t met in the physical yet, but you don’t give me the impression of someone who has crossed the line to the Dark Side. My friend there are not many like you. That doesn’t mean most people are bad, I think people want to do right it’s just challenging under all the circumstances of temptation. Plus I don’t think people realize how easy it is to create an emotional attachment to another human. I’ve seen people grow real feelings for people they flirt with and situations like that can lead to the Dark Side!

 

Yeah @Hollywood E Rock I can not take any credit for it, I give all the credit to the Holy Spirit!

 

You know when I contemplate all of this, I ask God why did you have to give us (men) such strong libidos especially when we are in our teens and 20’s, but expected not to have sex. It never has made sense to me.🤔 Maybe I’ll ask Him or not when I am with Him!😊

 

And if it were up to me I’d want to be in King David or King Solomon’s life as they had 1,000 of concubines & wives!🤣

[Grendel]

Basic answer, imho, no I don't think it is appropriate. It is just far too easy for someone, (even a 3rd party) to get the wrong impression.

I would find the task of trying to extricate myself from a messy situation far more trouble than the 'innocent' scenario was worth.

I have enough issues on my plate, don't need to go looking for more, heh.

 

edit: hmm, that still sounds self serving. I should add that I would also feel bad for the person that did get the wrong impression.

Edited December 21, 2019 by Grendel

[Hollywood E Rock]

40 minutes ago, Veum said:

 

Yeah @Hollywood E Rock I can not take any credit for it, I give all the credit to the Holy Spirit!

 

You know when I contemplate all of this, I ask God why did you have to give us (men) such strong libidos especially when we are in our teens and 20’s, but expected not to have sex. It never has made sense to me.🤔 Maybe I’ll ask Him or not when I am with Him!😊

 

@Veum

 

The creator gave high sex drives to all of us, unfortunately under men’s rule women have been shamed into not embracing their sexual desires. I interpreted the reason we are given the high sex drives is because we are supposed to practice self control. If we are able to control our lustful urges during the period when they are strongest than it should be no problem for a human once they found their partner to be with. Then it’s okay to have as much sex as you & your partner decide together.
 

46 minutes ago, Veum said:

And if it were up to me I’d want to be in King David or King Solomon’s life as they had 1,000 of concubines & wives!🤣

 

[Grendel]

Just now, Veum said:

 

 

 

You know when I contemplate all of this, I ask God why did you have to give us (men) such strong libidos especially when we are in our teens and 20’s, but expected not to have sex. It never has made sense to me.🤔 Maybe I’ll ask Him or not when I am with Him!😊

 

And if it were up to me I’d want to be in King David or King Solomon’s life as they had 1,000 of concubines & wives!🤣

 

Maybe, don't open the conversation with that....

Edited December 21, 2019 by Grendel

[Veum]

2 minutes ago, Grendel said:

 

Maybe, don't open the conversation with that....

 

 With what?

[Grendel]

asking why about the libido... heh

 

Edited December 21, 2019 by Grendel

[Veum]

1 minute ago, Grendel said:

asking why about the libido... heh

 

 

Why @Grendel?

[Grendel]

^^ Okay; as in...

 

"Hi God!"

"Hi Veum, have you been a good and just man?"

" Sure have, but why did I wanna screw everything with a pulse when I was 21 years old?"

" I'll get back to you... next!"

 

🤡

[Veum]

3 minutes ago, Grendel said:

^^ Okay; as in...

 

"Hi God!"

"Hi Veum, have you been a good and just man?"

" Sure have, but why did I wanna screw everything with a pulse when I was 21 years old?"

" I'll get back to you... next!"

 

🤡

 

I said I wanted to bang a gong, however I did not as much as anyone would think... does that make me miss out then?!

 

 

Edited December 21, 2019 by Veum

[Grendel]

One of my fave songs from about forever...!

Miss ya Bolan... R.I.P. Bro!

[Veum]

3 minutes ago, Grendel said:

One of my fave songs from about forever...!

Miss ya Bolan... R.I.P. Bro!

 

Me too!🎸🥁

Edited December 21, 2019 by Veum

[R1s1ngs0n]

For me flirting is not restricted to physical attraction. You can find someone else's sense of humor, taste in music/movies etc. to be equally attractive without that person necessarily meeting your beauty criterias (although it helps ) Nowadays, most of the flirting is done online - it's convenient, accessible to almost everyone...and if you get 'rejected' no harm done, you move on to the next one (while saying to yourself she probably posted a fake picture or one from 20 years ago). Some exchanges on this forum could also be considered harmless flirting, wouldn't you agree my friend @Veum 😏

I've been with the same lady for 16 years and it never crossed my mind to go look elsewhere (well, maybe once or twice but it was only due to a very big argument and of course nothing ever came close to materializing). There's a saying I like that fits this topic quite nicely and goes "Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean I can't look at the menu".

A couple of times I asked myself, what if I had been in a situation where Salma Hayek ('From Dusk Till Dawn' period) was waiting for me in bed, telling me "Do with me as you please" - what would I do? In all honesty, I don't know! 15 years ago I may have been seriously tempted to cross that line but at this stage of my life I'd like to think that maturity and wisdom would prevail and prevent me from doing something I'll be sure to regret afterwards.

 

All this to basically say - thank God for porn 😉

Edited December 21, 2019 by R1s1ngs0n

[Scary Hair]

Interesting perspective Gents .

 

Now talking flirting is fine .

 

Most of my contacts here and in the real world are male .

 

I get on with fellas far better than women . 

 

Percentage

 

wise 92 % are male 

 

8 % are female  friends wise .

 

Lucky for me Rich never bats an eyelid and i do get some questionable messages most time I am the instigator 

 

Now on the flip side where he works its a 96 % female 4 % male split .

 

Same again trust is a massive part in any relationship  .

 

19 years married 20 in a relationship so the chemistry is right  and yes we have had some real 

 

 

No matter what flirting is hard work never mind if its opposite sex or same sex .

[R1s1ngs0n]

21 minutes ago, Scary Hair said:

Interesting perspective Gents .

 

Now talking flirting is fine .

 

Most of my contacts here and in the real world are male .

 

I get on with fellas far better than women . 

 

Percentage

 

wise 92 % are male 

 

8 % are female  friends wise .

 

Lucky for me Rich never bats an eyelid and i do get some questionable messages most time I am the instigator 

 

 

Now on the flip side where he works its a 96 % female 4 % male split .

.

So that’s why it always sounds like he’s out of commission every time you talk about him.

Poor fella’s just too exhausted 😜

 

[Scary Hair]

10 minutes ago, R1s1ngs0n said:

So that’s why it always sounds like he’s out of commission every time you talk about him.

Poor fella’s just too exhausted 😜

 

 

Mate the nic name he has at his work is Super Spunk .

 

Due to surgery I  was told it was unlikely that we would ever have kids .

 

To have 1 never mind 1 of each gender its a title that is WELL DESERVED 

 

 

😁🤣🤣

[Veum]

4 hours ago, R1s1ngs0n said:

For me flirting is not restricted to physical attraction. You can find someone else's sense of humor, taste in music/movies etc. to be equally attractive without that person necessarily meeting your beauty criterias (although it helps ) Nowadays, most of the flirting is done online - it's convenient, accessible to almost everyone...and if you get 'rejected' no harm done, you move on to the next one (while saying to yourself she probably posted a fake picture or one from 20 years ago). Some exchanges on this forum could also be considered harmless flirting, wouldn't you agree my friend @Veum 😏

I've been with the same lady for 16 years and it never crossed my mind to go look elsewhere (well, maybe once or twice but it was only due to a very big argument and of course nothing ever came close to materializing). There's a saying I like that fits this topic quite nicely and goes "Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean I can't look at the menu".

A couple of times I asked myself, what if I had been in a situation where Salma Hayek ('From Dusk Till Dawn' period) was waiting for me in bed, telling me "Do with me as you please" - what would I do? In all honesty, I don't know! 15 years ago I may have been seriously tempted to cross that line but at this stage of my life I'd like to think that maturity and wisdom would prevail and prevent me from doing something I'll be sure to regret afterwards.

 

All this to basically say - thank God for porn 😉

 

@R1s1ngs0n now I know you are the...

 

 

1 hour ago, Scary Hair said:

Interesting perspective Gents .

 

Now talking flirting is fine .

 

Most of my contacts here and in the real world are male .

 

I get on with fellas far better than women . 

 

Percentage

 

wise 92 % are male 

 

8 % are female  friends wise .

 

Lucky for me Rich never bats an eyelid and i do get some questionable messages most time I am the instigator 

 

Now on the flip side where he works its a 96 % female 4 % male split .

 

Same again trust is a massive part in any relationship  .

 

19 years married 20 in a relationship so the chemistry is right  and yes we have had some real 

 

 

No matter what flirting is hard work never mind if its opposite sex or same sex .

 

@Scary Hair all I can say is you are the...